2. Torat Kohanim
Parshat Kedoshim 4:4
“You should judge your neighbor righteously (Hebrew -- b'tzedek)
”: . . . . Another explanation: Judge your neighbor favorably. The
Hebrew word "b'tzedek" can either be translated as "justly"
or "righteously", related to the word "tzaddik"
-- a righteous man. This midrash also moves the verse from the judicial
realm -- judge with justice -- to the personal realm -- judge your
friend as a righteous man.
3. Mishna Avot
(Ethics of the Fathers) 1:6
“. . . Yehoshua son of Perachia says, ‘Make for yourself a teacher;
aquire for yourself a friend; and judge everyone favorably.” Note
the progression: from teacher to friend to every man. Judging people
favorably is the seed of positive relationships with people. This
is in line with the Jewish approach that sees a pure, good soul
at the core of each person.
4. Rambam (Maimonides)
Commentary on the Mishna Avot 1:6
If someone is unknown to you and you do not know whether he is
a righteous man or an evil one -- If he does an act or says something
that could be interpreted as either positive or negative, judge
him favorably and do not think of him as having done wrong.
If one was
well known as a righteous man with good deeds -- Even if you see
him do an action whose every aspect seems to be bad, and the only
way of considering it good is through really stretching things and
assuming a very remote possibility, it is still obligatory to interpret
it as good based on that possibility.
Likewise,
if a person was evil and his deeds were well known -- If we see
him do something which looks from all aspects as positive and there
is only some remote possibility that it was bad, one must be cautious
of him, and not believe that it is good, based on that possibility
that it is bad. This is based on the verse, ‘When he supplicates
with his voice do not believe him for seven are the abominations
of his heart.’
If one is
unknown and the act could be interpreted in one of two ways, it
is a pious obligation to judge him favorably one of the two ways.
The Rambam's
three-tiered approach can be supported by talmudic passages. His
formulation is quoted by many of the later works on ethics, including
the Chafetz Chaim (see sources 6 & 7). Note that he introduces
limits on judging favorably (compare with source 8 -- the Baal Shem
Tov)
5. Talmud Bavli
Shabbat 127b
The sages teach:
One who judges his friend favorably will be judged favorably.
The following story is told:
A man went down from the Upper Gallilee and was hired as a worker
for a landowner in the south for three years.
On the day
before Yom Kippur the worker came to his boss and said, “Give me
my wages so I can support my wife and children.” He replied, “I
do not have them.”
He said to
him, “Give me produce.” He replied, “I have none.” He said to him,
“Give me land.” “I have none.” “Give me animals.” “I have none.”
“Give me pillows and covers.” “I have none.”
The worker
slung his things over his shoulder and went home frustrated.
After the
festivals the employer took the worker’s wages in hand, and along
with them loaded three donkeys -- one full of food, one with drink,
and another with tasty foods -- and went to his worker’s house.
After they
ate and drank he gave the worker his wages.
He said to
him, “When you asked me for your wages and I told you I have no
money what did you suspect me of?” “I said perhaps you came across
inexpensive merchandise and bought it.”
“And when
you said to me to give you animals and I replied that I have none,
what did you suspect me of?” “I said perhaps they were hired out.”
“And when
you said to me to give you land and I told you I had none, what
did you suspect?” “I said perhaps it was leased out to others.”
“And when
I told you that I had no produce what did you suspect? “I said perhaps
it was not tithed.”
“And when
I told you that I had no pillows or blankets what did you suspect?
“”I said perhaps he donated all of his property to Heaven.”
He said,
“I swear that is what happened. I vowed off all of my property because
of my son Hyrkanus who did not go to learn Torah. When I went to
my friends in the south they annulled all of my vows. As for you
-- the same way you judged me favorably, the Omnipresent should
judge you favorably.”
There are a
number of similar extreme stories on the same page of the Talmud.
Rav Aryeh Levin once said: G-d made everything for a purpose. Why,
though, create a "krum svara" (Yiddish for twisted logic)?
He answered: to be able to judge another favorably, even under extreme
situations.
6. Sefer Chafetz
Chaim Positive Mitzvot #3
Sometimes [through speaking lashon hara] one also transgresses
the positive commandment to “ . . . Judge your friend righteously.”
For instance, if he sees his friend who said or did something that
can be judged either as positive or the opposite. Even if he is
a normal person (not especially righteous or evil) we are commanded
by this mitzva to judge him favorably. (If he is G-d fearing we
are commanded to judge him favorably even if what he did seems more
likely to be bad.) One who says derogatory things about what the
person said or did, or one who accepts what was said about another
without judging the subject favorably transgresses this commandment.
Lashon hara
(prohibited derogatory speech) sometimes dovetails with judging
another negatively. Note, though, that even without speaking --
just by judging another negatively in one's mind -- one transgresses
the commandment to judge favorably.
7. Sefer Chafetz
Chaim Laws of Lashon Hara 3:7
3:7 Realize another great fundamental principle in these issues.
If you see a man who said or did something, between man and man
or man and G-d, that can be judged as either positive or negative:
If the man
is G-d fearing, he must be judged favorably even if the matter seems
very likely negative.
If he is
normal who sometimes watch out for sin and sometimes slip up: If
there is equal chance that the act was good or bad, he must be judged
favorably based on the biblical verse, as the sages say, “One who
judges his friend favorably will be judged favorably by G-d.” This
is included in the verse, “Judge your neighbor righteously.”
Even if it
is more likely that the negative interpretation is correct, it is
very proper to leave the doubt unresolved in one’s mind and not
judge him negatively.
Where the
act seems positive, where it is definitely prohibited to judge him
negatively, one who judges negatively and therefore speaks disparagingly
about another transgresses both lashon hara and judging righteously.
3:8 Even
where the negative possibility is more likely, and there is not
such a prohibition against judging him negatively, this is restricted
to is own perception of what happened. He should not therefore go
and speak negatively about the person, unless all the conditions
permitting it are kept (see sections 4,5, and 10). There are many
things which are prohibited to speak about even though the person
who did them was shown to be wrong.
The Chafetz
Chaim builds on the Rambam's three part division but adds two crucial
points. 1. Even when there is an opening to judge one negatively
it is preferable to leave it undecided in one's mind. 2. Even when
it is permissible to judge one unfavorably, it is not permitted
to speak unfavorably about him unless the special conditions
permitting it are present (see "Lashon Hara in the Workplace:
Worker Evaluations and Letting off Steam").
8. Baal Shem Tov on the Torah -- Parshat Kedoshim 2
2. . . . When one sees an evil person doing something reprehensible,
commiting a powerful sin, he should judge him favorably -- that
the sin was the result of being driven by an overwhelming urge,
or as a result of gross physicality, or that he does not know the
sin’s severity, etc. Through this he saves himself from judgement.
In reality, when a person sees another’s sin he should realize that
he has a similar fault, that there is an accusation and harsh judgement
against him. When he finds a merit in his friend’s behavior he will
also be considered meritorious . . . .
This is really
a great test. We have received the teaching that no judgement is
made against a person unless he himself rules it. Now a person will
certainly not rule negatively against himself. Rather, Heaven shows
him a man that commits some sin similar to the one he did and he
passes judgement on it, thereby passing judgement on himself.
3. . . .
He should try and bring them to repent with all his might and cleanse
them from the filth of their sin, and realize that the same fault
lies within himself. Concerning one’s self, one always finds merits;
so he should find merits and lovingkindness in all of Israel. Their
common denominator is that they are all righteous, all pure and
all worthy of all of the blessings . . .
The Baal Shem
Tov's teaching rests on a number of striking assumptions:
a. Other people's behavior is like a mirror of our own. The behavior
I witness also exists within me -- however subtle.
b. We judge ourselves. We are confronted by a situation similar
to the one we were in, and the judgement we pass on it becomes our
own.
c. We can speak of judging even the most evil people favorably --
not necessarily by saying that their actions are good (in this way
he does not necessarily contradict the Rambam), but by saying that
they are not deserving of punishment. This reaches a height in the
radical approach of Rabbi Levi Yitzchak of Berditchov, known as
the spiritual defender of Israel. His defenses of the Jewish people
during the High Holiday season before the heavenly court are legendary.
9. Orach Meisharim
-- A Code of Character, Chapter 14: Suspicion
Suspicion
3. Even though it is forbidden to suspect people, nevertheless one
should be careful lest people come to sin, and take care that no
harm or loss comes to himself or others through them. The Sages
said (Rabbi Yehoshua son of Levi in Derech Eretz Rabba 5, quoted
by Rashi on Taanit 23b), “People should always be in your eyes like
thieves and respect them like Rabban Gamliel (the Prince).” Judging
people does not mean being naive.
4. If one
suspects an innocent person he should appease him and bless him.
5. It is
forbidden to bring one’s self to suspicion, either concerning monetary
matters or sin, even concerning a rabbinic level positive mitzva,
. . . as it says, “Be clean before G-d and Israel,” and “He finds
favor and good ----- in the eyes of G-d and man,” . . . . We
should not put others in the position where they will have to judge
our questionable behavior positively.
7. One suspected
of something should make sure he clears himself of suspicion . .
. . We do not just say, "What others think is their own
problem." Our negative (as well as positive) actions affect
others -- they might be a model for others to follow or foster an
environnment where such behavior is acceptable.
Prepared by R. Eliezer Kwass